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Information for Birth Parents

It is important that you think about what is really best for the child as well as for you. In order to make that decision, you should get counsel from people who know you and with whom you have a trusting relationship. Get all the information you need about adoption, think and pray about your decision.

With what you know about yourself, your family history, your support system, the father, and what is likely to happen under both options, you should be able to make the best decision for you and your baby.

Even if unsure, if adoption is a possible option for you, it is also important to get competent legal advice as early in the pregnancy as possible. As you will read under Other Services/Contested Adoptions, time can be a very important factor in whether an adoption will be successful. You are not legally committed to adoption under Kansas law until you sign a consent after the birth. Therefore, it only makes sense to get good legal advice as early as possible. If you come to the conclusion that adoption is your likely course of action, the next step is to select the best family to care for your child.

Of course you have the option of placing your child with a family you know well or a relative. However, if this is not an option for you, you should understand that there are many options in choosing a home for your child.

 

It is a great situation when both the mother and father work together in the selection of an adoptive family. However, the job more commonly is carried out by the mother. Birthparents must take great care in the selection of a family for her child. That may start with a review of profiles of possible adoptive families. Our office maintains profiles of prospective adoptive families who have been approved for adoption. Most of the families whose profiles we hold are Christians, from many backgrounds.

 

We will want to know what is important to you in selecting an adoptive family. You may be looking for a particular type of family make-up, location, denomination of faith, or family situation.

How can I select an adoptive family?

If interested in any profiles presented, it is recommended that you go through whatever process is needed to become familiar with an adoptive family before making a final decision as to who will adopt. During this interactive process, both you and the adoptive family have the opportunity to determine and develop the level of trust necessary. If that trust is not developed to your satisfaction, it is not recommended that the adoption be pursued with that family. Either party may back out any time during the selection process and go in another direction.

 

This process will vary depending on the situation and the people involved.

What is most important in selecting an adoptive family?

We understand how important this decision is to you and your child.  If your decision is adoption, we want you to be comfortable and secure.

If you wish to consider an adoption plan for your child, contact us at

785-234-0022 or akvlaw@cox.net

What should I think about in considering adoption?

There is no such thing under Kansas law as an “open” or “closed” adoption. However, openness in adoptions is quite common. Many years ago, adoptions were often more "closed." There would often be no contact and only essential information shared between the parties to an adoption. Today, only a very few birthparents still desire to avoid all contact with the adoptive family.

 

These days, birthparents are taking more responsibility for their decision and should be sure that they are making the right one. In addition, adoptive families are wanting more information about the birth¬parents to share with their child at an appropriate age. This can be a “win/win” situation if you and the family you select are able to get to know and trust one another before the birth. A good relationship before birth usually will make the future more secure for both after the adoption.

 

Even though you will not be required to form any particular relationship with your family, we encourage you to do whatever is necessary to feel comfortable and secure in your choice of a family.

 

Personal contact following adoption is less common, but does occur in some cases.

 

Today the typical pre-birth selection process involves one or more face-to-face meetings. We also encourage you to make a plan for how you want things to go in the hospital. Following placement, you may want to have the option to request pictures and updates occasionally from the adoptive family. You may also write a letter to the child expressing your love for the child and the reason for your decision. Some birthparents do not desire any contact or communication after the adoption. It is up to you and your adoptive family.

Are there “open” and “closed” adoptions?

Other than some adoptions by relatives, a current home study (completed within the last year before filing) is required for finalization of all other adoptions. All home studies must include both criminal and child abuse and neglect background checks.

Is an adoptive home study required in adoptions?

Yes, with limitations. Under Kansas law, an adoptive family may agree to provide reasonable living expenses that are incurred during or as a result of your pregnancy. Any funds paid beyond expenses related to the pregnancy could put the mother at risk for criminal liability.

 

It is very important to get good legal advice about this matter because a birthparent who knowingly and intentionally receives money that is not allowed or clearly excessive could be found guilty of a criminal act.

May a mother legally receive assistance related to the

pregnancy?

Generally, under Kansas law, you may not sign a consent to adoption until at least twelve (12) hours after the birth, although you may want to wait longer. You should be sure the effects of medication have passed, you are rested and had time to reflect upon your decision. You should wait s long as it takes to be clear headed and comfortable with your adoption decision.

When may a mother of a newborn consent to adoption?

Ideally, both parents will consent at the same time, although that does not happen in a majority of cases. However, if you and the adoptive family wish to proceed without the father’s consent based upon the circumstances, you may consent and the adoptive family may file a petition for adoption with the court. A temporary custody order is requested from the court giving the adoptive family legal rights and responsibilities pending further action by the court. The child is usually discharged from the hospital directly to the adoptive family. If the child is not in a hospital, then the adoptive family may take legal custody with a court order.

What happens after the mother consents?

Please see the discussion about ‘Contested Adoptions’ under our “OTHER SERVICES”  Section.

What about the rights of the father?

Birth Parents

Yes. Over the last 30 plus years, we have developed relationships with caring and sensitive counselors and pregnancy support advocates throughout the State of Kansas. If you have need of an experienced woman to walk along side of you through your pregnancy, we would be happy to recommend someone in your area.

Is there any personal help available for me?